March 13, 2020

Suffering a loss

“Once, an elderly general practitioner consulted me because of his severe depression. He could not overcome the loss of his wife who had died two years before and whom he had loved above all else. 

Now, how can I help him? What should I tell him? Well, I refrained from telling him anything but instead confronted him with the question, “What would have happened, Doctor, if you had died first, and your wife would have had to survive you?” 

“Oh,” he said, “for her this would have been terrible; how she would have suffered!” 

Whereupon I replied, “You see, Doctor, such a suffering has been spared her, and it was you who have spared her this suffering — to be sure, at the price that now you have to survive and mourn her.” 

He said no word but shook my hand and calmly left my office. In some way, suffering ceases to be suffering at the moment it finds a meaning, such as the meaning of a sacrifice.”

~ Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning

March 03, 2020

The sting

Emotional pain is a sting of desires that are impossible to fulfill.


March 02, 2020

Fire of love

Love is like a fire: if it's to keep burning, both lovers need to keep putting firewood into it.


February 21, 2020

December 02, 2019

Sand castles of stories

I'm writing a first draft and reminding myself that I'm simply shoveling sand into a box so that later I can build castles.

~ Shannon Hale


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November 25, 2019

The nets of knowledge

Knowledge is a net that gets denser and stronger as you add new pieces of information to it.

A thin net of knowledge can only catch glittering little fishes of trivial facts. A large and well-developed one captures true whales of wisdom.


November 15, 2019

Practice

Whatever you do, practice a lot. Practice more, practice excessively and extensively, practice too much and then some. 

Let 'practice' be your mantra, your magic word unlocking the world of mastery.


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November 11, 2019

On writing

If you write and edit, you're an author.

If you just write, you're a graphomaniac.


October 28, 2019

The world of clouds

The world of clouds is so shaky and misty, and yet so real in its unreality. 

But the wind will blow, and the mountains and valleys of clouds will be gone forever.



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October 21, 2019

Sketching

Sketching badly is still better than not sketching at all.


October 07, 2019

Patience

Patience is like dripping water: it accomplishes really big things in really small steps.








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January 28, 2019

Three whales of motivation


  • Passion 
  • Pleasure 
  • Seeing a deeper meaning/usefulness in what you do


December 14, 2018

Water of care

Caring about children is like watering plants: too little makes them dry, too much makes them rotten.













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December 12, 2018

Questions and answers

An answer puts everything in its proper place, but in a question those proper places are still uncertain and prone to change. An illusion of freedom.



November 23, 2018

Life choices

How many times, when I regretted not doing something, I wished so badly to be able to replay the situation or to get a similar chance. 

But on thinking again, could I have really done anything differently under those past circumstances?

And being completely frank, would I really do anything so much differently if I was faced with a similar situation these days?

Well, maybe.

At least, I hope so.



September 24, 2018

Understanding art


Columbo: Could you explain this? 

Francine: Well you see, we don't explain art, I mean, that's just sort of something you feel. You see, you look at a picture or a piece of sculpture and that either does something for you or it doesn't, you know.

from Columbo, S4E5 Playback
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March 12, 2018

Becoming an adult

Children consume and have no responsibility for what they do.

Adults create and have responsibility for their actions.

Being an adult may be more challenging (and indeed many adults would like to keep a child-like lifestyle), but eventually, it's much more satisfying and empowering.


November 13, 2017

Where there's a will...

Those who want find opportunities.

Those who don't want find excuses.



September 07, 2017

Teaching yourself

Our responsibility as adults is to teach ourselves what we weren't taught as children, and to give ourselves all the love, respect, care, and consideration that we weren't given as children.



May 15, 2017

Forever learning

Those who insist they have nothing more to learn are the ones who need to learn the most.



May 08, 2017

Love

Loved ones come in many shapes and sizes, but love comes in only one - Universal.


Regret

It's better to do something and regret it later than to do nothing and regret it all my life.